Understanding The 5 Love Love Languages

 

Many at times we tend to overlook certain things in relationships that end up destroying all we’ve labored to build. If two people decide to fall in love, it is their responsibilities to know what they consider to be love. 

While one may consider spending quality time with his partner as the ultimate expression of love, the other may also consider receiving gifts from a loved one as the ultimate. 

Knowing your partner’s love language and letting them know yours can help ensure you both truly feel loved in your relationship. Being able to describe how people feel and express themselves is absolutely imperative. 

There are 5 love languages that make you draw the lines between what is actually given in and taken in return;

1.Quality Time 

Spending enough time with each other can be a sign of bonding well and it increases connection. There must be undivided attention. Communicating with the person over the phone every time is not enough proof but an essential element in love, it must not only be limited to phone calls; take them out on dates, go swimming, plan eat-outs or cook together, preferably

But taking into consideration what the person likes and dislikes will be a perfect tool to execute this. Your partner must be prioritized in order feel cherished and loved. 

Tip: Avoid any form of distractions when spending time with someone who’s dominant love language happens to be this one. Make every moment spent with him or her meaningful and memorable.

2.Affirmation 

Words spoken or written must be significant to your partner. They must be thrilled by expressions you make which would ignite emotions. 

Compliment them when they do things by expressing it more often, ‘you look pretty/handsome”, ‘’you smell good” ”the shoe looks really nice on your feet” it must be a constant thing and no don’t look at it as cliché is just that refueling the same statement will help wet the appetite of your partner. 

Learning to appreciate others is quite difficult, but in relationship let it be a part of you, appreciate the little things they do for you. 

People are more likely to be drawn to words of affirmation because they believe words really matter to them by giving them a literal voice to how they feel inside. 

Affirm words like, ”I love you“, ”I find you so attractive and gorgeous”, “thank you for making me feel safe and loved” thus communicating and expressing the deepest part to your partner with positive affirmative words is a plus.

3.Physical Touch 

This is quite self-explanatory. Sex is an important aspect of a romantic relationship but on the contrary, physical touch is not all about sex it looks beyond that, physical touch can be characterized as both intimate and non-intimate. 

A hug, kissing, a pat on the shoulder a hand squeeze among others can be an expression of love that is meaningful to your partner. 

Considering the both of you live miles, how can physical touch be possible? Sort to video calls to help connect to your partner physically when you’re not actually together. It is very difficult for people who have this as their dominant love language to maintain a happy and fruitful long-distance relationship but it is possible to.

4.Recieving Gifts 

Presents are physical symbols of love that materially expresses someone’s affection. Your partner’s love language can be gifts. 

Here again getting to know your partner well can make you understand the love language preferable by them. Each present you give them is perceived as an expression of true love. 

However, there is a lot of misconception surrounding gift-giving as a love language, it is not materialistic or shallow but it would be a surprise to know that, people who see gifts as one of the ways of conveying affection may even tend to be more sentimental and attached to nostalgia.

5.Act of Service 

Besides service to God, there is also service to humanity based on relationship principles. This love language can be best described as doing something for your partner without them even asking or you knowing they would like it. 

Act of service is the physical expression of thoughtful gestures; your partner will always feel adored by the things you do. Always make breakfast for two, have their clothes washed once in a while and properly folded, try giving a helping hand without being asked 

Be able to find the actual love language of your partner, create a plan and draw out all their likes and dislikes this would aid in understanding and knowing the love language of your partner very well. Avoid concluding wrongly and don’t interchange a love language with another, stick to the one that would have your partner comfortable taking into consideration your language as well. 

Question: Do you know your love language, and if you are in a relationship, what is your partner’s love language? 

Writer: Christiana Aba Dadzie